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Mahesh Hegade's Blog
Saturday, 27 August 2011
Anger
Mood:  happy
Topic: Quotable Quotes

Over the month of July, collected interesting quotes about anger from different books.


Anger is a very powerful form of energy if it is transformed to put to good use. It is a very debilitating as a emotion.


July 26


“‘Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to the dark side.’”


The Dark Divine by Bree Despain



July 25


Anger with God was a tired and useless emotion, anger with God was so terrestrial and neutering.


The Unnamed by Joshua Ferris


July 24


Anger, like other emotions, is a judgment. When you get angry, you’re judging other people (“You treated me badly”) and situations (“This just doesn’t suit”). Anger is a statement — your statement — about right and wrong. The more you judge the world, the more likely you’ll be angry — about something.


Anger Management For Dummies by W. Doyle Gentry


July 23


Anger stems from irrational beliefs about others, and anxiety stems from irrational beliefs about yourself.


The Brain Mechanic by Spencer Lord


July 22


“I read somewhere that anger is the teacher…forgiveness the lesson.”


The Recipe Club: A Tale of Food and Friendship by Andrea Israel, Nancy Garfinkel


July 21


“Whenever you don’t know what you’re feeling, you reach for anger.”


The Myth of You and Me: A Novel by Leah Stewart


July 20


Someone once told me that sarcasm is the safe alternative to expressing anger.


Degree of Guilt by Richard North Patterson


July 19


If we carry anger inside of us, it can slowly eat our souls away.


Chronically Happy by Lori Hartwell


July 18


Anger is not humanizing. It’s a rehearsal for the performance that never arrives.


Unless: A Novel (P.S.) by Carol Shields


July 17


Nothing wrong with repressed anger as long as it stays repressed.


Maybe This Time by Jennifer Crusie


July 16


Avoid the three toxic A’s: authoritarianism, anger, and aloofness.


The Soul of Leadership: Unlocking Your Potential for Greatness by Deepak Chopra


July 15


Some sixteen hundred years ago Saint Augustine wrote: “Hope has two beautiful daughters. Their names are Anger and Courage. Anger that things are the way they are. Courage to make them the way they ought to be.”


The Ten Commandments for Business Failure by Donald R. Keough


July 14


Take action to derail the anger sequence. With rational thinking and positive self-talk, we can derail the anger sequence before it derails us. We can stop resentment cold.


Of Course You're Angry Second Edition by Gayle Rosellini, Mark Worden


July 13


Anger is not a primary emotion. It is always caused by something else. Just beneath the surface of the anger, you will always find great sadness, profound fear, or deep disappointment.


One Soul, One Love, One Heart: The Sacred Path to Healing All Relationships by John E. Welshons


July 12


The psychology of anger is that you wanted something, and somebody prevented you from getting it. Somebody came as a block, as an obstacle. Your whole energy was going to get something and somebody blocked the energy. You could not get what you wanted. Now this frustrated energy becomes anger – anger against the person who has destroyed the possibility of fulfilling your desire.


Emotions: Freedom from Anger, Jealousy & Fear by Osho, Osho International Foundation


July 11


Control is a poor substitute for awareness, a very poor substitute, it doesn’t help much. If you are aware, you need not control anger, in awareness, anger never arises. They cannot exist together.


Awareness: The Key to Living in Balance by Osho


July 10


“You must be willing to suffer the anger of the opponent, and yet not return anger. You must not become bitter. No matter how emotional your opponents are, you must be calm.”


The Autobiography of Martin Luther King, Jr. by Clayborne Carson


July 9


I’ve learned that I must find positive outlets for anger or it will destroy me. I have to try to find a way to channel that anger to the positive, and the highest positive is forgiveness.


The Measure of a Man by Sidney Poitier


July 8


Guilt is a common cause of depression because guilt is a form of pent-up anger. Guilt is anger toward yourself.


Happiness Is a Choice: The Symptoms, Causes, and Cures of Depression by Dr. Paul Meier, Frank M.D. Minirth


July 7


Anger may be expressed outwardly as rage, or turned inward and be experienced as depression. But underneath all anger is fear.


Letting Go With Love: The Grieving Process by Nancy O'Connor


July 6


Wisdom was knowing what to do. Skill was the ability to do it. Virtue was doing it. When wisdom didn’t subdue anger, anger destroyed everything.


Dying For Revenge by Eric Jerome Dickey


July 5, 2011


Anger cannot be overcome by anger. If a person shows anger to you, and you show anger in return, the result is a disaster. In contrast, if you control your anger and show its opposite—love, compassion, tolerance, and patience—then not only will you remain in peace, but the anger of others also will gradually diminish. No one can argue with the fact that in the presence of anger, peace is impossible. Only through kindness and love can peace of mind be achieved.


How to Expand Love by His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Jeffrey, Ph.D. Hopkins


July 4, 2011


If a man keeps dwelling on sense-objects, attachment to them arises; from attachment, desire flares up; from desire, anger is born; from anger, confusion follows; from confusion, weakness of memory; weak memory—weak understanding; weak understanding — ruin.


Bhagavad Gita: A New Translation by Stephen Mitchell


Posted by Mahesh at 6:43 PM EDT
Sunday, 17 October 2010
Wise and....
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"Some people are wise. Some are otherwise."

:)

"You can know how clever a person is by his/her answers. You can know how wise a person is by his/her questions."

"Questions get answers. Statements get resentments."

"Leaders do not have to know all answers. They should know most of the right questions to ask."

"It is better to be approximately right than absolutely wrong."

"Two wrongs do not make one right. But, three LEFTs do make one right."

Cheers to being wise.

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Posted by Mahesh at 11:06 AM EDT
Emotions - from repression to expression
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"Controlling the emotions is repressing them. Transforming the emotions is expressing them." - Osho Rajneesh

Bear with me on this not-so-pleasant analogy. Or bear with Osho because he is the one who used it. If you feel like vomiting due to some food poisoning or something else, do you just go and puke on somebody? or puke on the restaurant waiter or owner where you think you had the meal that gave you this food poisoning? Most likely, you do not. Like any normal person, you go to bathroom/toilet bury your head into the pot, relieve yourself and come out feeling  the relief of getting the bad stuff out of your system.

Osho asks, then why do we vomit our anger on somebody for wrongs or what we think as wrongs? Anger is nothing but mental food poisoning. You took some bad ingredients, your restless mind processed it and could not withstand it, so it is giving you that equivalent sensation to go and puke. If that's the case, go and puke in private and not on somebody else. Osho says, go and run around your house for seven times and sit down under a tree and see where the anger has disappeared. Sri Eknath Easwaran says go for a brisk walk repeating your mantra.

"You are not punished for your anger. You are punished by your anger." - Buddha. Anger and other negative emotions are THE punishments. There is not any separate punishment for feeling angry or being nasty. Just see how you feel afterwards, you just feel terrible - even if you feel you stuck it up well into the other person. As they say - "in war, victors are vanquished. Defeated are destroyed." Both are lost.

"Forgiveness is the highest form of revenge."

"If you want to take revenge, dig two graves. One for the other and one for yourself."

Cheers to tranquility.

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Posted by Mahesh at 10:27 AM EDT
Monday, 28 June 2010
One, None and Two
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"One is none. Two is one."

Above is the much-repeated quote of elite Navy SEALs commandos.

Always have a back-up.

Nature gave all important things in pairs. Just so that there is at least one if the other one fails.

This quote appeared in the book "Warrior Soul: The Memoir of a Navy Seal" by Chuck Pfarrer. Very interesting book by former SEAL commando.

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 12:19 AM EDT
Saturday, 22 May 2010
Life
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"Life is only 10% what others do to you. It's 90% how YOU react to what others do to you."

You can not control what others do to you. You can only control how you respond. Many times our response are either wrong or at wrong level. Over reacting is the common word we hear many times. That's the wrong level. Many times, just letting things cool down takes care of many of the things. As they say, "everything will fall in place with time and patience."

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 10:26 AM EDT
Saturday, 27 March 2010
Alligators
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"When alligators are up to your ass, it is hard to remember that your original intent was to drain the swamp."

How true? Example - Yes, quality matters. When it's end of the quarter and that most important customer is screaming at the top of his voice, improving quality is the last thing on anyone's mind even if they preached that mantra all along. At that point, it's a matter of survival. So, let's give it to the customer and deal with the consequences later.

What to do when this happens? What can you possibly do? Nothing much. Forgive yourself. Do not beat yourself up very much. Pray more. Generate more positive karma and be happy. You are not the cause and not the effect. When you know that, all your worries disappear.

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 10:26 AM EDT
Strangers
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"There are no strangers in this world. Just the friends that we have not met yet."

Very beautiful. If we keep this quote in mind, how easy it becomes to warm up to new people. They are not strangers at all but just the friends that we have not met before.

There may not be strangers but there are indeed strange people. One may be you (and everyone else). :)

Cheers to meeting new strange friends!

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Posted by Mahesh at 10:14 AM EDT
Friday, 2 January 2009
Head, heart and hour-glass
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"When the head empties, heart fills up. Like a hour-glass."

Empty head and a full heart - any good? Not sure. Head empty of what and heart full of what? Head empty of rationale and heart full of emotions? Is that any good? No idea.

No personal attestation to this quotation. Closest I can say is 'when stomach fill up, brain slows down.' I think this is universally verified. After a heavy meal, most of the blood gets busy digesting the food and you can not do any serious mental work. There are exceptional people, who after partying hard till 12 in the night, come back to work on a very important corporate presentation due next morning at 8 AM. I have only been able to admire them. That's it. Anything more is enough to give me nightmares with stress. Some people really like to push things right to the very edge just to that tipping point. Don't they? Is that what they call adrenaline rush?

If nothing, the above quotation is quite beautiful especially its comparison to hour glass. That deserves credit. Few people with full head can come up with such a beautiful metaphor. The person who came up with this quotation probably had his heart full with fine emotions.

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 2:06 PM EST
Saturday, 27 December 2008
Confidence v/s Arrogance
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"Confidence - I can do it."

"Arrogance - Only I can do it."

From recent Hindi movie - Ghajini. Sometimes movies also have some nice quotations.

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Posted by Mahesh at 2:04 AM EST
Sunday, 21 December 2008
Beauty
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"I'm tired of all this nonsense about beauty being only skin-deep. That's deep enough. What do you want, an adorable pancreas?" - Jean Kerr

Funny indeed. "Adorable pancreas" - that's too much. There may be lively liver, gorgeous glands, terrific @#$@#$, beautiful @#@s, colorful !@#@ etc. So, it's enough that beauty is skin deep.

"Beauty is skin deep. But, ugliness goes deep down to bones."

"Beauty is in the eyes of the beer holder." (meaning after a couple of beers, your definition of beauty may change.)

"Beauty like contact lens is in the eye of the beholder."

Beauty - subjective. Are there universally beautiful entities? May be - super models, breath taking sceneries etc. - I think everyone will acknowledge these as beautiful.

Can everyone be beautiful? Yes - at least all parents find their children beautiful. They may even make it up.

Is beauty helpful? You bet. "First impression is the last impression." for most people. So, people who are easy on eyes seem to make better first impressions. It's different story afterwards when their not-so-beautiful attributes start showing up.

Can beauty and brains exist together? For sure. Seen many such people. Can beauty and modesty exist together? May be. Is it too hard for beautiful people when they lose physical beauty? Yes, if they do not understand the natural aging process. Sensible people age so gracefully that they look beautiful in any way.

Can anyone increase their beauty? Why not? - market is full of beautification aids. Individual mileage may vary.

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Posted by Mahesh at 11:50 PM EST
Worry
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"Worry is a misuse of imagination." - Dan Zadra

If so, then 'anxiety' is a gross misuse of imagination. What do you say?

Worry is also when spot light of imagination shines on a wrong object.

"Worry, hurry and curry make you sick." Do not know about curry. But, worry and hurry certainly cause sickness. Curry can be given benefit of doubt. I believe worry and hurry thin your stomach lining. Thin stomach lining can not take curry. So, it is not the fault of curry. That may be the reason why they say - 'it is not what you eat but what is eating you makes you sick.' What is eating us? Worry.

One way to deal with worry is to understand locus of control. If we become clear about what is within our control and what is not, it goes a long way in reducing worry. "If there is a solution, find it. If there is none, never mind it." Every worry has some aspects which are our under control. We can certainly work on those aspects and see what we can do to take care of them. Similarly, each worry may have some aspects that are not under our control, we should not worry about them and let them play out as they should.

"I have had many misfortunes in my life. Most of them never came true." - Mark Twain. I think Mark Twain was lucky. He probably did not worry too much about imaginary misfortunes. Many of us much better worrying about imaginary misfortunes. We are so good that we actually make such misfortunes happen to ourselves. The power of imagination is very strong. It is capable of making things happen. It cuts both side. If we think about positive things, we can also make them happen. "We can make ourselves miserable. Or we can learn something from every situation. Effort for both of these is the same. Choice is up to us."

"First do what is necessary. Then do what is possible. If you follow the first two, you will soon be doing what is impossible." - Saint Francis of Assisi.

"People worry about what they should be eating between Christmas and New Year. In fact, they should be worrying about what they eat between New Year and Christmas."

Worry less. Be happy.

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 11:43 PM EST
Alone....
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"We're all in this alone." - Lily Tomlin

Probably the policeman in this news piece felt that way (i.e. being alone).

Read it for yourself at - http://www.dnaindia.com/report.asp?newsid=1209712

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Posted by Mahesh at 11:36 PM EST
Confidence
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others." - Hasidic Saying

How can one become more confident? Confidence comes from skills (being able to do) and knowledge (being able to know). Knowledge is not power. Knowledge applied is power. Confidence also comes from experience. "Been there. Done that." Nothing succeeds like success. Success (or failure) comes only from doing. So, if you want to feel confident you have to expose yourself to variety of experiences. "Nothing that kills you only makes you stronger" - this is something we should remember when we feel anxiety about trying something new. There are only few foolhardy things, if and when tried ,can be fatal. All other experiences are fine to go after. Moreover, every experience is an experiment. Experiments do not have failures or successes. They only have outcomes. It is our reaction to outcomes makes us term an experience as success and other as failure.

It is one thing to have confidence and a totally different thing to portray confidence. Confident people are not very defensive. They are not shaken when you dispute what they say. If someone goes on defensive as soon as you show even mild disagreement, you can safely question his confidence. If you are confident about yourself and your ideas, why do you ever want to get defensive? You and your personality is not something which need to be defended from every minor attack.

If someone is not very good at displaying their confidence even when they are confident, how can we determine their level of confidence? You see, we sometimes need to do more than merely scratching the surface of someone's personality if we want to benefit from their vast experience and expertise. If we write them off just because they are not very good at portraying their confidence, it is us who is going to lose out.Try to learn as much about the other person as you can. If you find the person has had a lot of experience, you can benefit from his experience even if he does not know how to portray that into an external confidence. You may also be able to make him understand how valuable his experience and skills are and help him become more confident. Many times we bump into such raw diamonds. All they need is just some polishing to shine. What can be more fulfilling if you can help someone feel more confident about himself?

Always sharpen your intellect so that you can differentiate genuine confidence from mere hot air. These days everyone knows that one has to come across as extremely confident to succeed. Nothing wrong with that. But, a lot of people do not have what it takes to feel the level of confidence they want others to see in them. It's all pomp and show. Help such people too. Make them understand it is okay to feel less confident at times. Everyone feels confident in some areas and if you want to succeed you should know your strengths as well as weaknesses.

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 11:23 PM EST
Success
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"You have succeeded in life when all you really want is only what you really need." - Vernon Howard

I think a wise chinese man said -"all I need is a bowl of rice and a glass of water." That is nirvana when all we want is absolutely only that we need. Gandhi said - "there is enough in this world for everyone's need but not for anyone's greed."

I feel lesser we have lesser the clutter we have to put up with. People say they travel light. I say we should live light. Two suitcases. Be mobile and you will see how free you will feel. You are your own master. More you own and want much more, they are like handcuffs even if they are golden handcuffs. They tie you more and more to where you are. Every time you need to take a tough decision, you have to take stock of all that you have and chart your course accordingly. Own a house? then chances are you are not going to move to far off place for a different job even if you are miserable in your current job. I advocate living lightly just to keep my choices wide and open.

Every time something breaks down, I feel good these days. I junk it and never bother to buy another one unless it is something I absolutely need it. It's been a life long mission reduce clutter. Documents? Scan them and throw them into a terra byte hard drive. If you are worried about your hard disk, try to get some space online and store them there. But, do something about the junk that accumulates. Rent everything you can own. Money? Should be accessible from anywhere with your laptop.Car? Something which has good market value and people should be willing to buy it off your lot if you choose to sell it. Electronic stuff? Don't buy gadgets unless you really need them. Music system? Better buy a great sound system and stream to it from your laptop. Huge TV? I do not know. I would not get one. I would rather buy an expensive laptop with largest screen available and watch online.

One clutter that I am still trying reduce is a huge collection of books. I know many of those books are outdated and nobody wants them. But, somehow I do not feel like throwing them away. May be I must do that to reduce my clutter. Books come on so many diverse subjects that I feel like keeping them for life. May be I should try online or electronic readers like kindle.

Hey, anytime for ready for anything to reduce clutter. Two suitcases. That should be mantra if we want to be truly mobile. More the clutter more you are stuck to where you are.

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 11:17 PM EST
Society
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"If a free society cannot help the many who are poor, it cannot save the few who are rich." - John F. Kennedy (1917 - 1963), inaugural address, January 20, 1961

I think this is a quotation to remember every time we feel resentment towards schemes helping the poor with our tax money. If every part of society is not well off, none of us are going to be really well off. Everyone should have at least basic needs met. It's like body. If one organ is not well, the whole body feels the pain. You have two options, either treat the organ or amputate it. Amputations do not work all the time. Even when they work, they result in permanent loss. So, it is better to take care of the whole body.

I do not believe late president Kennedy meant that we should simply dole out hand-outs to poor. It should be need based. If there are people in the society who just do not want to work, it is a different matter. We will have to understand what is wrong in our social set up which has created such people in the first place. Nobody becomes a liability to society just like that. It is probably the circumstances that made them like that. So, we have to address the root cause. May be it is lack of education or something else.

Humans can only survive as a symbiotic group. There are no other ways. Everyone has to be able to live with their basic needs met. Only then some of us can be well off compared to others.

We can even take this one step further. How about animals? If number of animals we have around is not controlled, they will be on our streets. We see this in developing countries. Innumerable dogs, cats and cattle are left to tend to themselves. They create so much problems on the urban infrastructure that they can bring a city to halt. We have to control their numbers in the first place. At least we have an option to put them to sleep without much pain. Although it pricks our heart to do so, we at least have an option. But, better option is to control their number is in the first place by neutering them in the first place.

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 11:14 PM EST
Thursday, 11 December 2008
Is it the mountain or the grain of sand in your shoe?
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"Be master of your petty annoyances and conserve your energies for the big, worthwhile things. It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out - it's the grain of sand in your shoe." - Robert Service

Enormity of the mountain that you want to climb may be daunting at the outset but it is going to be that one grain of sand, if in your shoes, is going to give you hell of a time while climbing that mountain. It may even become the determining factor if you can scale the mountain at all.

This is one of the best quotations that drove home the point perfectly.

You know, I have observed one thing. Many times it is the clutter on our work area that discourages us from starting the project. As soon as you clear the clutter and organize your work area, you somehow feel motivated to start the project. Take care of small things and bigger things start taking care of themselves. Small things when done well lead to good results. Good result is not a small thing.

"Don't sweat the small stuff. It's all the small stuff." - Ignore, attend to and do whatever necessary to take care of minor issues first. Without such things out of your way, nothing significant is going to happen. It is also a good way to remember this quotation while doing retrospection or analyzing something that is not going well.

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 10:55 PM EST
Laughing at mistakes
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"Laughing at our mistakes can lengthen our own life. Laughing at someone else's can shorten it." - Cullen Hightower

Laughing at our own mistake serves at least two important purposes. First, I believe it can act as self-forgiveness Many times we are way too hard on ourselves for mistakes we have committed. I think laughing is a good way to write them off after we have made an effort to learn from them.

Second, I think laughing at our own mistakes in front of others makes others feel that we too are like them. I have seen good leaders do that with their teams. This helps forge better relationship with everyone you work with. Many times people tend to stay away from leaders thinking that leaders are far superior and may look down upon common people. By laughing at your own mistakes in front of others, people develop a different kind of respect for you.

There is another important use as well. By being the first one to laugh at your own mistakes,you have taken away the ability of others to be the first one to do that. It is much easier to take when we ourselves laugh at our mistakes than when others do that. This is a great neutralizing technique for leader. As a leader, there are always people who want to find faults in everything you do. Since you are a doer, you do end up making mistakes every now and then. At those times, if you are wound up too tight and fail to admit your mistakes, people are going to criticize you heavily and it may tarnish your image. So, always be the first one to laugh at your own mistakes.

Self-deprecating humor is not bad at all. We just have to be careful that we do not act like and become a joker. That's all. We should only use this when we realize we have made a mistake. We should not use this to deprecate ourselves to win over other people. People are pretty good at spotting phonies. So, do not go on deprecating yourself all the time.

Laughing at someone else's mistakes is totally different. Never do that. Use the time and effort to learn from other people's mistakes. It is the most cost effective way to learn.If you always learn only from your own mistakes, you will learn very little and life is not long enough to do that. Always encourage others to laugh at their own mistakes by setting an example of laughing at your own mistake too. Once laughed at by the person who has committed the mistakes, mistakes are seen in a different light altogether. The focus shifts from mistakes. The spotlight moves to what we can learn from those mistakes. Everyone benefits.

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 10:54 PM EST
Poetry
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"Most people ignore most poetry because most poetry ignores most people." - Adrian Mitchell

Very funny indeed.

This quotation provided some explanation to my personal lack of interest in any poetry. Right from early days I have seen that any sort of serious poetry has never appealed to me. It does not to many people. This quotation made me think why it may be so.

First, poetry, by it's very nature, seems to make an inordinate amount of effort to say something in a very convoluted fashion. You really need a different mindset to understand what the author may be trying to say. On the other hand, prose is simple, fast read and direct.

Only poetry that ever appealed to me is some witty poetry with perfect rhyming words. They can pack a lot of punch.

This is not to demean poetry at all. There are special people, I myself know some, who can take hours to read and reflect on few short stanzas of a poem. After that they can write pages of prose interpreting the same. That's a different interest and talent. But, for most people above quotation sums it up very well.

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 10:53 PM EST
Be visible to get it
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"Only some people get what they want. Those are the people who show up to get it." Dianne Houston, Take The Lead, 2006

Woody Allen said something similar - 'success is 90% showing up.' You can modify it as - 'success is 90% showcasing your show-off.'

It is very natural feel cynical when we see people who have not worked hard garner all the limelight and get some occasional success. There are several ways to logically interpret this phenomenon. First, when we brand someone as a person who did not deserve success for something he did not do, we many times do not know the full story. We hear someone make such an allegation and take their word. Somebody says 'Hey my boss took all the credit for my work. He is a fool and did not do anything. It's all me who did the work.' It's easy to fall into this trap. Boss and people in higher positions are easy targets. They are not required to do the actual work you do but still they get the credit. What we fail to see is that they are held accountable and responsible for actions, including yours. They also have to take the blame should you and fellow workers fail. It all comes with risk.

Secondly, what we get in this life does not depend only what we have done or not done only in this life alone. Life is a continuity. It does not start with birth and end with death. If anything, birth and death are just two imaginary marks we put on a continuity called life. It is like putting some indicators on another continuity called time. Is there any special meaning that marking time? It's for our point of reference. So, if someone gets something that seems undeserving to us, it may be for something they did it right in the past. We do not even bother to understand what they did a few months back. Never mind what they may have done few lives back. They say what we are today is a result of what we did yesterday. We will be what we are going to today. It is like an arrow which has already left the bow. It's a matter of time before it strikes. If it is a good arrow or a one with poisoned tip is what we knew when we shot it. Now we have to face the consequences.

On the point of 'success in 90% showing up' another excellent quote comes to mind. It goes like this.

"Less risk. Less reward. That's business"

"More risk. More reward. That's gambling."

"Less risk. More Reward. That's opportunity"

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 10:51 PM EST
Sunday, 7 September 2008
Laziness
Topic: Quotable Quotes

"Laziness is the habit of taking rest before you feel tired."

Easiest way to overcome laziness is to start doing without thinking much. Once you start, momentum easily builds up. Inertia is what requires the most energy to shake off. Once you overcome the inertia, things get better. With some tasks, it is not easy to overcome laziness. In that case, set yourself a target that you will work for 25 minutes on that task and then take 5 minutes break to review if you want to further continue on that task or not. Chances are most of the tasks get done in those 25 minutes and you feel good.

I do not know if laziness is a bigger problem or procrastination. Sometimes, the difference between them is so blurred. These techniques work for both. For action oriented people, it is easier to overcome these tendencies. For thinkers, things get harder. That's why they say it is no good to be a mere thinker. It is good to be a thinking person who acts as well. You can easily validate - action oriented people generally do better in all walks of life than thinkers. Thinking has its place but unrestrained thinking for too long deprives time and energy from doing something useful and we will remain mere thinkers when action oriented people steal the show even if their action was poor compared to what it would be if we were to put in action even a fraction of our thinking.

There are very few people who have action and thinking in a perfectly balanced proportion. Each of us are skewed in one way or the other. Sometimes I think it is better to pair up with someone who makes up for our lack of action or thinking. It can work well if you choose right partner and manage the relationship well.

"Act now. Think later." (on the lines of famous pop song - Love now. Hurt later.)

Cheers!

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Posted by Mahesh at 5:48 PM EDT
Updated: Sunday, 7 September 2008 6:01 PM EDT

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